11yo girl wearing no underwear?

by Admin on May.07, 2010, under Celebrity Totty

I have a serious question that has been bugging me for weeks, something I witnessed. I am looking for serious answers only, preferably from professionals, no nonsense like “ooh that’s gross” or “ooh that’s hot”.

Background: A family I know, middle class American, very educated, happily married couple, one child a daughter age 11-1/2. Politically moderate but very religious, a very well respected family in the community, the daughter is pretty and well behaved, happy-go-lucky, seems to be very well psychologically.

They and I attended a big public charity event about a month ago, many people, a few local celebrities. The family shows up conservatively dressed but classy, the daughter is wearing a pretty dress that is age appropriate.

But at one point during the event with only a few people around the daughter falls backwards in her chair (not hurt) and has a “wardrobe malfunction”. As brief as it was I was shocked to notice that she had on no panties under the dress, no underwear at all. I thought it rather odd for her age, I can understand a 4 or 5 year old going public with no underwear, but an 11 year old? I thought that was the age they start getting very self conscious about their bodies and would never do that. The only other situation I have heard of where a child that age was not wearing underwear regularly was an abusive home situation.

Is this something I should be worried about, or am I making a big deal out of nothing? Is it normal for a girl that age to do that? Again, serious answers only, no jerks.
I am pretty sure of what I saw. And this family has money, I can’t see them not having enough underwear especially for a special event like this. This girl does not seem to be the type to simply wait for mommy to put her clothes out for her, she is very intelligent and mature for her age, she has been described by someone as “11 going on 30″. And I am not trying to butt in on their personal lives, it just has been bugging me for weeks and I am just confused by her behavior.

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27 Comments for this entry

jean c
May 7th, 2010 on 4:51 am
Um excuse me, but from the way i see it, a 11 year old girl not wearing underwear is definitely weird. Shes 11 years old for gods sake. Her parents should seriously start looking after her.
mudrocker
May 7th, 2010 on 5:27 am
its none of your business
Kandie Kay
May 7th, 2010 on 6:18 am
still fits in the age of innocence
maybe she didn’t like them
or had an accident earlier in the day…and ditched them
Miss_Lady
May 7th, 2010 on 7:17 am
If you’re worried about an abusive home situation, you should watch the family as well as the daughters behavior more closely. Study up on what bahaviors hint to abuse. That way you know you arent just thinking anything up.
Porcelain
May 7th, 2010 on 7:33 am
Was the dress tightish? Maybe she was self conscious about the panty lines, and just decided not to wear underwear?
Johnathan L
May 7th, 2010 on 8:04 am
Dont worry about it? stay out of peoples business? its not your problem? your make a big deal out of nothing, just leave it to be.
kroos20
May 7th, 2010 on 8:07 am
i don’t think u should worry unless u notice other signs of abuse
Krista
May 7th, 2010 on 8:30 am
Well, although it does seem a little odd, as a mother of three children I would have to say there could be many answers. One of them being that the girl’s laundry didn’t get done in time…
These days with two working parents in most families it is hard to stay “up” on housework… speaking from experience.
Anyway, I don’t think I would jump to any hasty conclusions from this one incident alone.
Gregory
May 7th, 2010 on 8:40 am
Well that could be one option but I think that she was just self conscious about her underwear showing through her dress or something
Health Freak
May 7th, 2010 on 9:15 am
I don’t think it is a normal practice at all. I would also think that due to the parents being very religious, they would be very against that sort of thing. It could just be a one off thing where the washing machine broke and she had run out of clean panties or she had an accident or something. It’s not really your place to get involved unless you think the child is being abused. I think you should brush it off, but keep a close eye on the girl whenever you see her next.
rent_diva34
May 7th, 2010 on 9:34 am
My sister is 19 years old and usually normal. If my mother did not force her into underwear every time we went out since she was old enough to wear underwear, she would be commando.
She has a lot of issues with the way underwear feels on her, mainly the elastic bothers her upper thighs/stomach area. One of the things my mother would ask her before leaving for anywhere is “Are you wearing underwear?”
This girl may have similar issues (another big thing is my sister refuses to wear stockings, pantyhose, tights, even leggings). Maybe her mother doesn’t know of her daughter’s aversion to underwear, or maybe in the rush to get ready for the event, she forgot to check to make sure that the girl had put on her panties.
As long as the girl is not doing it in an exhibitionist way (revealing clothing, no undergarments, trampy look) then it is more than likely a sensory issue.
Little Cup of Tea
May 7th, 2010 on 10:04 am
I’ve seen this happen in my classroom before. Perhaps the girl is still depending on her mother to set out her clothes and forgot to set them out, that’s what happened in my case. Sometimes undergarments can be cumbersome so maybe she just didn’t feel like wearing them.
if this is the first incident I wouldn’t look in to it too much.
iamaninja
May 7th, 2010 on 10:24 am
I never did that when I was eleven.Though,it may even be common among that age group now.
tipsyvertigo
May 7th, 2010 on 10:54 am
Are you positive she wasn’t just wearing pale or flesh tone colored panties? You say it was “brief,” are you sure you aren’t just making assumptions about it?
Cindy J
May 7th, 2010 on 11:51 am
I would say that is very odd and if I witnessed the same thing – I would have been concerned and shocked. My 3 girls are between 9 and 13 and I would never allow them to go without underwear in a public place, especially in a dress! I am sorry that I cannot give you a more educated answer but, my gut feeling tells me something is truly wrong with that.
rejectedzipper
May 7th, 2010 on 12:02 pm
She’s of an age where not putting them on would be just “something to do” – either to be daring or just to feel free.
Don’t read too much into it, the description of the family certainly makes it unlikely that there is anything sinister going on.
I guess AT THE TIME you could have quietly whispered to the Mom “Oh my goodness, (name) hasn’t got her panties on” – her reaction would have given you the answer:
1) We let her go without for (whatever reason)
2) Oh, she’s a bad girl, thank you.
3) She had a little accident *blush*
4) You must be mistaken
guy
May 7th, 2010 on 12:07 pm
There could be a lot of reasons why that happened, but you will never know. Back when i was young i remember not wearing underwear one day because nobody washed the laundry. It could be that she was in such a rush with her parents yelling at her that she just didn’t wear underwear hoping that she wouldn’t fall or somehow let someone see
you’ll never know
moon
May 7th, 2010 on 12:55 pm
you are right about your concerns;the honest answer is eleven is expose and not sustainable any longer because of the dynamics and completion of life equation.That leaves with nine and downwords as the equation gets zeroed in with solution(s) there is no turning back after awkward encounters but moving on with GUNIAM and not giving way to cowardice so that you do not lose more than it need be.Hopefully and I think it is possible that solutions meet at nine and not less.
the dude
May 7th, 2010 on 1:25 pm
she should wear panties now because in few years her periods would start….
Ali
May 7th, 2010 on 1:27 pm
normal some girls just dont like wearing them even at that early age or like some one here said maybe she had an accident earlier
Fantabulous Fanny
May 7th, 2010 on 2:18 pm
I dont wear underwear either , my daughters dont have to if they dont want to
darlene r
May 7th, 2010 on 2:28 pm
an 11 year old girl without undies? ummmmm no it is not normal.
maybe did it it challenge her parents, doubt it was a laundry problem
Russell
May 7th, 2010 on 2:39 pm
There could be several reasons for her to not wear underwear. I guess my thought is that no one is supposed to see your underwear anyway, so not wearing any is in the same thinking – no one should know you aren’t wearing any. It was a freak mishap that you noticed. Had she not fell over in the chair, you wouldn’t have seen anything. Had she been wearing pants, you wouldn’t have noticed. Would you be concerned if she were wearing a thong? It’s technically underwear. Honestly, I’ve never thought about what age is appropriate to not wear underwear. Does it seem strange? Yes. Is is something to be concerned about? Only if these “freak” mishaps happen far too often. It is ok to be concerned for a child’s well-being. More people should be. But I wouldn’t sweat this.
Jan g
May 7th, 2010 on 3:15 pm
its strikes me as easy access for an abuser. I definately think there is something going on. Even well educated, respected members of the community abuse. people dont know what goes on behind closed doors.
l{errie
May 7th, 2010 on 3:41 pm
Go up to the parents, tell them what you saw, tell them you were concerned and thought you should let them know, then leave it be. It’s not your place to get involved any more than that.
madgamer438
May 7th, 2010 on 4:02 pm
Abuse, possibly. But remember, kids these days are becoming more sexually minded and active younger and younger these days, you did state that shes like 11 going on 30, so she may have done that herself.
meggie
May 7th, 2010 on 4:25 pm
it’s none of your business